But I Really Do Love You, Sweetie

There was a horrific story last week about a guy who killed his parents. Apparently, he had fallen in love with a cam girl from Bulgaria and had stolen money from his parents, including a second mortgage on their house. I have no idea how he managed that. When his parents found out, they threw him out of the house, so he killed them. Very sad and unsettling.

Adult webcams are a lot like strip clubs, except sometimes more explicit. I can't tell you how many unfortunate souls I have seen falling in love at a strip club. I can't tell you how many happy faces I've seen going into the VIP room, only to come out looking defeated because their fantasy about getting lucky popped like cheap bubble gum. As with strippers, your relationship with a cam girl is a financial one. Strippers who actually start a serious relationship with a customer are very rare. Cam girls who do that are easily ten times more rare. It's not always as mercenary as it sounds. A lot of strippers and cam girls are doing it to finance their education or to get the hell out of their parents' houses. I say, more power to them.

What you are buying is a fantasy and an escape. Your job is boring as hell. Maybe you're just lonely. Maybe you and your wife just aren't as interested in a sexual relationship as you used to be. Whatever your reasons are, it's perfectly fine. I find an hour or so watching cam girls is very diverting, and I can escape for awhile from my boring routine. But I never once believe that while she is furiously masturbating, she is imagining us making passionate love. First of all, she can't even see me, and I am likely to be one of several thousand other guys or girls watching her at the same time. As long as you keep that in mind, enjoy the fantasies. They really are amazing. If you're smart about it, you can enjoy the show without spending your whole paycheck on tips.